Being able to say goodbye in a personal and meaningful way can help with the grieving process

When someone you care about dies, you experience something that is a normal response. This is what we all call grief. Grief is not jus tone feeling, it usually involves a range of different feelings and responses. It is not something that you experience and then get over. And it is not something that everyone experiences the same. Everyone feels grief differently and there is no right or wrong way to grieve.

Grief, put simply is a natural reaction to loss. It brings with it strong and sometimes overwhelming emotions. These emotions vary from person to person and vary in intensity and longevity. It comes about when your mind, body and emotions react to a loss and dramatic change in your life.  

That loss has permanently changed your life, so grief is now something that is a part of you and your life. You do not ever move on from grief or get over it. It is something that you move forward with now as a part of life.  But its intensity will change and lessen over time. There will be hours, days, and weeks, even months and years when your grieving for your loved one will come and go. They say grief is like an ocean. It comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm and sometimes it is overwhelming. And all you can do is learn to swim with what you are facing.

But that’s Ok. You will learn to live with the loss and grief you feel and you will still be able to have a happy fulfilled life even though you have grief for someone who is no longer with you.  Always remember that grief is the price we are all willing to pay to love and have people and connections in our life.

Being able to say goodbye in a personal and meaningful way can help with the grieving process. To hold a funeral or a memorial which truly reflects the individual is a final act of love for the deceased person. Our dead should be able to depart this world in character, whether that means a traditional religious service or with a group of surfies on the beach.

However you want to say goodbye, it should be founded on informed choice.

Lauren from Tree of Life Funerals in Batemans Bay can support you through this very difficult time of your life, by offering you personal, caring and affordable funeral options, created just how you’d like it to be.